You can’t undo the past. No indulgence, no gratification, no escape, no relief, no reward, no possession, no emotion, no expression is worth the cost of living with regret. When you have something objectively good in your life, something you can’t get anywhere else, treat it delicately. Reflect. Pay attention to the present. Consider the future. If you stay your hand, if you hold your tongue, if you just summon a little patience, you’ll get more than you wanted: you’ll be a person that you can love and respect.