Respect your self. Step outside of yourself and look at that person objectively. What do they need? What do they deserve? Would you bury them under work? Would you deprive them of rest? Would you deride them for every mistake? Would you deny their right to be healthy? Would you encourage them to shirk their responsibilities? Would you indulge their every craving? Would you lie to them? Would you hold them back? Would you let them give up? Could you show them patience? Could you show them that you care?